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If you are struggling with finishing too early, here are 16 tips to follow;
1. Get support from your partner:
Getting support from your partner can be a relevant part of the process.
“To start with, tell your partner that you want to try lasting longer, and ask your partner if they are interested in that,” says Vanessa Marin, MFT, a licensed sex therapist in private practice.
This may help your partner understand what is going on and help you talk openly about any feelings of frustration.
Once communication is open with your partner, you can discuss exactly what triggers your orgasm and try practicing the following methods.
2. Use condoms:
Since premature ejaculation may be a result of hypersensitivity, using a condom is a simple solution that may make sex last longer.
The condom forms a barrier around the penis that dulls sensation and may lead to delayed ejaculation.
3. Learn the pause-squeeze method:
The pause-squeeze method can be done while having sex or masturbating and involves:
1. Having sex until you feel that you are about to ejaculate.
2. Then, pulling out and squeezing the tip of your penis for several seconds, or until the need to ejaculate passes.
3. And finally, continuing to have sex and repeating the technique as needed.
“The theory is you stop the flow, let the penis rest, and then go back at it to increase your time,” Brahmbatt says.
Brahmbatt says that this can be one of the more difficult treatments for premature ejaculation because it takes a lot of self-control. Practicing repeatedly and communicating clearly with your partner may help ease the process.
4. Do pelvic floor exercises:
Your pelvic floor muscles lie just below your prostate and your rectum and just like other muscles, they can be strengthened through exercise.
Experts believe that if pelvic floor muscles are too weak, it may be harder for you to delay your ejaculation.
To flex your pelvic floor muscles, act as if you are trying to stop yourself from peeing or passing gas and feel which muscles move. To tone these muscles, follow these steps:
1. Tighten the pelvic floor muscles – you can lie down or sit if this makes it easier.
2. Hold the muscles taut for 3 seconds.
3. Relax the muscles for 3 seconds.
4. Repeat the exercise as many times as needed.
To get good results, you should try to do three sets of 10 repetitions each day.
5. Slow your roll:
Thrusting quickly creates intense stimulation and may make you more likely to orgasm after a short time. Thrusting quickly can also make it harder to recognize more subtle sensations in your body, and you may not realize that you are getting close to orgasm, Marin says.
“Try to move at a slower pace, and regularly take little breaks to move extra-slow,” says Marin. You may be surprised that some partners might like slower movement, especially at the start of sex.
Positions that limit your movement, like having your partner on top, can also be helpful because you are not able to lose control and start thrusting too quickly.
6. Change up positions:
When you change positions, it requires you to take a bit of a break and slow your movements.
“You are not getting as much stimulation during the transition, so it allows your body to cool off and get further from orgasm,” says Marin.
Positions where you can’t penetrate as deeply may also help, such as a spooning position where you are the “big spoon.”
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